|"Each friend represents a world
in us, a world not born until they arrive,
and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
|Instituted by God. Anyone who
would label themselves as having an anam cara
relationship is a theist of some variety.
|Instituted by humans. Atheists get
married, too, after all. God is not necessarily in
the picture although many people do involve God in their
marriages and He may even be at the heart of those
|"Til death do us part"
|Is not a legal arrangement. A
couple could "add on" legal protections (i.e. Andrew and
JenniAnn listing each other as health care agents) but
there's nothing automatic about it as with civil
|Is generally a legal arrangement.
At least in the States, insurance, inheritance, child
custody, tax status, etc. are very much bound up with
|No divorce... ever. For me, this
and the one below are the main reasons angels can enter
into anam cara relationships and NOT marriages.
Divorce is hard enough without dealing with the
repercussions for an unending immortal life.
|Divorce is very much possible. It
can even be moral under certain circumstances (abuse,
|Can never be forced. All parties
must consent to the union.
|Arranged and forced marriages still
|Can involve sexual relations but just as
often they don't.
|The majority of marriages include sexual
|Could be a romantic relationship but it
might also not be. For example, Andrew and
JenniAnn interact in quite romantic ways. John and
Joshua do not.
|Romance in marriage is generally the
|Can involve more than two people.
For example, I think the case could easily be made for
Maryam-Yeshua-Yosef having a triad anam cara
relationship. Adam-Kylie-Clay is headed this
way. Heck, Joshua strives to have this with
|Marriage is only between two people.
|Agapic love is always present.
That doesn't mean the parties involved have it down
perfectly but completely selfless love for the other
would always be the goal.
|One would hope agapic love was present
but it's not always the case. Sadly, some people
marry for selfish reasons.
|Procreation is not the main focus.
It can be a focus but not the main one.
|For many, procreation is vital to
marriage. (Not saying I agree with this...)
|There may or may not be a ceremony.
|Most cultures have some sort of marriage