"What we have once enjoyed we can never
lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us."
When JABB started, John was 36 and we celebrated by doing, of
all things, a re-write of The Addams Family theme song
entitled "The Boy from Amory." That was JABB 14. I
couldn't imagine then that we'd be sending our 375th JABB
newsletter on his 50th birthday! It's bittersweet.
I can't deny that. I am so, so glad that JABB is still
around and I'm very glad that you're all a part of it. I
believe with all my heart and soul that John is having a truly
amazing birthday in Heaven. While it's perfectly
understandable to feel some sadness today, I do feel a lot of
joy and I hope all of you do, too. I hope John's able to
look down and see that fifty years after his birth, people are
still loving him and looking to his work for inspiration and
hope. We will always remember him and below you can read
exactly why. I hope somehow that John is able to see all
50 of the items below. Well, except for #16. I
think he might want to have words with me over that one.
50 Things We Will Never, Ever Forget About John Dye
1. John's complete generosity towards others.
2. He was not a fan of chocolate, on a lighter
3. He really *can* play a bad guy and very well!
4. He almost turned down the role of Andrew.
5. He knows how to work an audience with his
6. He kept in touch with former costars.
7. Getting his ear pierced on The View.
8. How I ran up to the t.v. to console him when
he got upset on Journey to A Hatefree Millennium.
9. San Francisco and Mississippi - can't think
about either place without thinking about him.
10. He likes Diet Coke and okra but not
11. Roma said he blushes beautifully :)
12. His smile melts my heart.
13. The many hairstyles and lengths and how I
liked them all!
14. "God Bless"
15. Oh yeah, and how he flirted with one of the
girls on The View.
16. Larry Lycra man!....LOL! STILL fall out of
my chair with that one! :D
17. The episode of Touched when I first
noticed him...God as My Witness
18. His facial hair (swoon!)
19. His southern accent in Tour
20. Pocket watches
21. How he kept his hands in his pockets.
22. Also, how he would brush his hair back with
23. He wore glasses.
24. His voice...I jump if I hear a similar voice
or if I'm not paying attention to t.v. and then hear
25. Most importantly, HIM. I'll never forget
26. Before there was "There's an app for
that!" there was "There's a John Dye project for
that!" Seriously, I'll never forget that no
matter what was going on in my life... whether I was
celebrating something or upset about something...
there's always something John was in that makes
everything better when I watch it.
27. Watching "My Dinner with Andrew" the night
it aired. It was the first episode I was able
to see in my home after a week plus power
outage. Plus... the promo had made it look
like our darling Andrew might fall. I was so
wrapped up in it that to this day I still remember
what I was wearing (black floral skirt, red sweater,
black boots)... and I still wear that same skirt
every year on or around John's birthday.
28. Viewing Heart of the Beholder for
the first time, taking a nap, and then waking up to
find my brother had stolen the DVD and was watching
in his room. Awkward... And then calling
my best friend for a little addendum on the birds
and the bees talk because I was confused.
29. Tuning into Entertainment Tonight
shortly after Columbine and finding John speaking
about it. Somehow hearing from him... from
John and not just Andrew... made me feel better and
30. I'll never forget all the amazing and
enlightening discussions I've had with fellow John
fans. To think we'd never have even met
without John let alone discussed metaphysics,
recipes, the Bible, and how to get my freaking
computer cursor to stop jumping around. ;-)
31. That my first ever remembered glimpse of
the man I would end up crushing on for over half my
life was... a pair of loafers that I strongly
32. Those awesome yellow Chuck Taylors.
Much better shoes!
33. Flannel shirts, silk ties, leather
jackets, peace sign necklaces, dusters, suspenders,
tool belts, bell bottoms, beige sweaters,
fedoras... Okay, so I can't walk into the
men's department without being reminded of John.
34. TBAA Season 9's premiere "A Rock and a
Hard Place." It was always memorable when we'd
finally get to see Andrew after a 3+ month
absence. But when I first saw John in that
episode... wow. I don't know if it was the
shaggy hair or simply John but my crush went into
overdrive. And when I have to go... I
wanna go out like Mildred.
35. John's righteous outspokenness about a
certain hate group that shall remain nameless who
hearkens from my beloved Midwest. In the years
since John made his views known, I've
counter-protested against those people. And I
had John in mind the whole time.
36. John telling Oprah that his mom said "A
coincidence is when God chooses to remain
anonymous." It seems more true the more time
that goes by.
37. "The child is father of the man..."
I remember feeling so giddy when Andrew read poetry
and hoping that John might do some sorta spoken word
CD or something.
38. All those shots of Andrew walking down a
dark street alone and how, every time and still to
this day, I want to jump into the screen and run to
39. Mother, Mother. The whole
thing. It's hard for me to watch any more but
I'll never forget it.
40. The time we got a message on our old JABB
guestbook... from John Dye. To this day I
can't for 100% sure say it was him. But right
around that time a link to JABB appeared on John's
section of touched.com so ya never know. I'll
never forget the warring feelings of "OMG! I
love him! That's so awesome!" and "OMG!
I am going to die of embarrassment right here and
please, dear God in Heaven, don't let him have seen
the drool bucket..."
41. His adorable southern accent
42. How comforting his presence was, even on
a television show
43. I'll always remember the way he wore a
tool belt. And jeans. And flannel shirts. And –
okay, I'll stop here.
44. His portrayal of Doc Hock in “Tour of
45. His lovely hair and all the fun
conversations it inspires
46. Orange juice and ginger ale. Need I say
47. The way his beautiful smile lit up his
eyes and everyone's around him
48. The way he would make me smile every
time he did those little things, like attempting
to fix a car or playing with a football. Because
despite being so ordinary, those things became
something special. Because they mean something to
49. By playing Andrew on “Touched By an
Angel”, John changed my life in many wonderful
ways and I'll never forget that.
50. "I just want you to know there's nothing
to be afraid of. On one side, there is life. And
on the other...there is life, too."
This newsletter is
dedicated simply and entirely to John Dye. I can't
pick any one thing because it was his entire nearly 48 years
that made him who he was and it was those years and the two
that have since followed that bring us to this moment,
writing this list and remembering John on his 50th
birthday. Selfishly, I still wish he was here because
I miss simply having the hope of one day turning on my TV
and seeing him speaking out with compassion about a current
event or doing promotion for a new show or giving a behind
the scenes look at a soon-to-be-released movie. But I
know that while John surely had some awesome birthdays here,
none can compare to the awesomeness that is being
Home. Happy 50th birthday, John! We are, all of
us, so glad you were born!
(The first, third, and last photos are from Touched by an Angel and owned
by: CBS Productions, Caroline Productions, and Moon Water
Productions; the second is from Tour
of Duty and owned by: New World Television; and the
fourth is from Mother,
Mother and owned by the film's producers. They are
not being used to seek profit.)