“You are never too old to set
another goal or to dream a new dream.”
Welcome to the first JABB of 2013! I truly hope each of
you have a blessed and happy year ahead of you! This
newsletter is a lil about looking back and a lil about looking
forward. I hope you enjoy!
January 6th, 1996, something HUGE happened. The
character of Andrew, played so beautifully by John Dye, was
introduced to the world in the Season 2 TBAA episode "The
One That Got Away." For some of us (including yours
truly), this was our introduction to Andrew. For
others, that came later. Below, Rebecca and I share
our memories of TOTGA and our initial "Andrew experiences."
I remember my first introduction to Andrew and TBAA was
sometime in 1998, I think that was the year may have been
97? I saw "The Pact" and fell in love with both
Andrew and the show. I had been to summer camp when
I was younger and the show really touched me. Was
hooked after that.
I didn't see Andrew's first episode TOTGA till much later
and it always made me think of my days in Pharmacy
school, yes everyone was super competitive, but not
to that extent. I did meet my husband there. I
really liked the episode!
I've shared my experience before on first seeing TOTGA
the night it aired. Short version: I didn't get
who the new guy was and wanted Adam back. Oh the
irony... It's funny to think back on me at the
ripe old age of thirteen (and a half!) likely wrinkling
my nose at the guy with bad shoes. If only she
knew that there would start seventeen years of crushing
on the same actor and the same character.
Sometimes I wonder if on some level I did know and that
was at the root of my initial negative reaction to
was going to be leaving the only school I'd known for 9
years, the only class, the only teachers, and really the
only neighborhood. I didn't need any more change
and that dude had change written all over him.
Maybe that's why I have so many traditions attached to
John: must watch TOTGA every January 6th whilst sipping
orange juice and/or ginger ale, must have the same drink
and a dessert every September 20th, must watch every
TBAA Christmas episode every Christmas season, one piece
of jewelry must somehow reference John if I am leaving
the house, and so many more. Traditions provide
some grounding even amidst change. I think my need
for them explains a lot of why I grew so attached to
Andrew. As an angel of death, he reminds us of the
most momentous change we'll all face. But John's
portrayal of him was such a perfect blend of ethereal
and grounded, mysterious and comfortable, different and
the same that change seems a lot less scary.
Looking back, it seems all the more perfect that our
introduction to Andrew involved Della Reese singing "The
Rose" which features these lyrics by Amanda McBroom:
Just as the seasons change from the killing frost of the
winter to the blooming and color of spring, so will this
life eventually lead to a greater Life of much beauty
and eternal love. I'm very glad that there was a
guy with bad shoes to remind me of that for seventeen
years and counting.
So now to look forward... I have made some
resolutions related to JABB (frankly they're the only
resolutions I've made!) and I'm gonna share them here in
hopes I'll actually stick to them this way!
2013 I resolve to...
1. Get back to assorted JABB
ideas that I loved but then abandoned including but
not limited to: Unanswered Questions, "Brushes with
Andrew" stories, and, who knows, maybe even Dye
Scouts which was a lot of fun back in the day.
2. Relax more with my favorite John Dye
projects. I love running JABB but it does
sometimes have the unfortunate effect of turning
things into a job. So I vow to watch more TBAA
especially without it necessarily meaning updating the
Guide or Photo
Gallery. Also, I will watch Campus Man
sometime this spring or summer... possibly multiple
times... regardless of the weather. I have this
cockamamie idea that it needs to be bright and
sunshiny and hot to watch that. It does not.
3. Stop starting newsletters the day they're
due... Procrastinating is bad!
4. Bring back JABB Jeopardy at some point!
Time to put those Doc Hock factoids back to work!
Embrace my John and JABB related traditions but not
get so wrapped up in them that I go crazy and get
6. Celebrate what we actually have done.
Some things I knocked off my JABB to-do list in 2012
include: finally getting Andrew a male Dyelander to
hang out with. Yay Max! I also indexed the
Dyeland stories. Perhaps in the biggest move, I
watched "The Good Earth" for the first time last
February. It had been the lone TBAA episode I
had never seen. I also watched the finale again
for the first time in ages and did okay. So I
guess that was a big theme: showing myself
that I can watch
loads of John's work and not go hysterical.
And I think I'll stop there lest I overwhelm
myself. You're all welcome to start making bets
amongst yourselves on how well I stick to these.
This newsletter is dedicated
to John's continued presence in our lives as we enter
the year 2013. While we remain together on this
side, John lives on in the memories and hearts of so
many here. He lives completely and perfectly on
the Other Side, too, and I am so grateful for the 7.5
years he spent helping us to believe that the transition
from this side to our Home in Heaven will be beautiful
when our own times come. May we all live our lives
on earth to the fullest!